NLP 10th Week 3rd December

The last week of NLP the Difference that makes the Difference.

Just the nine of us again, and we started with a piece of relaxing music and imagine whatever came into our head with the theme grateful? I thought it meant that what we had learnt to do better since we started? I said I had learnt how to be more empathic and focused on my clients’ needs and develop a more enquiring mind. I am grateful in many ways to have good health when I know others are not as blessed. This is apparent in my voluntary work with palliative care and those affected by cancer. I mentioned my last client who recently passed away was estranged from his brothers with no other family and seems to have no one to give him emotional support; I became that crucial support when he needed it. I challenged my client to discuss what his last dying requests were and he was able to tell me very precisely what he would like to have sorted for his final farewell. I felt very privileged about this as for a person to disclose this type of important request to someone who was not family was I think unusual or is it? How many people have discussed with their nearest and dearest this rather taboo subject? I certainly think and have plans that are already in the pipeline on this matter after many people saying ‘I would have felt better if I knew what they would have wanted?’

How much has changed over the ten weeks was summarised in a class exercise in two groups. We imagined we were in a lift with someone and they asked us in 30secs to describe what NLP was about? Interesting thought now let me see.

“NLP stands for Neuro-Linguistic-Programming. NLP uses techniques from many disciplines (psychology, counselling, coaching) but overall challenges one to understand the mechanisms by which we behave and think. There are some basic underlying principles to follow that sound like common sense or words of wisdom like use all your available senses (VAK plus smell and taste), challenge people’s statements with Meta theory (deletions, generalisations and distortions) and use plenty of NVC (mirror, pace) to gain rapport/intimacy. Finally set goals that are outside your comfort zone and learn new skills you would pay to be able to do.”

Final thoughts?

So we have had our feedback to the assignment given us and certificates handed out on this final session amongst the nibbles people had brought too. The clear message was are we going to keep the changes going or are we just going to slip back into our comfort zone? Are we going to go on to the next level or decide whether NLP just didn’t make the difference we thought?

I have seen some good statements too like:-

“Unleashing your excellence” and “helping people to develop” are just two quotes from the many around NLP and in fact coaching. It is emphasised that we spend too much time wasted and not use our potential properly.

Lost time is lost life opportunity/productively.

So what would the next chapter in our book look like? A cue to think and plan the next stage?

Imagine a future YOU and the one you are at the moment? That is imaginative and thought provoking. I spoke with a class member and we discussed the next part of our Personal Development Plan and we both agreed having the course behind us is like being in a ‘mental gym’ work out. The NLP has stimulated the mind, mobilised the body and fed the soul. I am now up a gear and raring to go!!!